Meredith Vieira is the latest public figure to use the Janay Rice punch to the kisser as a jumping off point for her own tale of sticking with an abusive man. Meredith got grabbed roughly and called names and scalded in the shower as a younger woman experiencing bad love. She chose to stay because she was scared and guilty. Also, somewhat presciently, she knew the experience might come in handy as a sweeps week teaser on her afternoon talk show decades later.
This whole victim as hero is the pendulum swing response to victim as ‘dumb bitch’ crude meme that went around about Janay Rice for signing up for a lifetime of happiness with the dude who dragged her hair first out of an elevator. I don’t see it either way. I understand why some women stick out abusive relationships. Who knows which of us wouldn’t do the same in a different situation. Fuck, I’ve stuck it out with horrible women before for dumber reasons. But heroic? No, just stupid. We’re all stupid. There’s no shame.